Duties of Members of the Bridal Team

Nobody ever wants to deal with a bridezilla!  but honestly I don't blame them!  its hectic planning one's big day.  the pressure of multi-tasking while pleasing everyone at the same time.  But as family and friends we can do a little bit to ease the pressure.  I am especially talking to the bridesmaides and groomsmen out there.  You each have an important part you can play to release the pressure on the couple, allowing them to enjoy the moment.  So here are the jobs and duties of each person is responsible  for;

Mother of the Bride
Before the Wedding

• Remember it is your daughter's wedding, not yours!   So let her come up with her own ideas for her big day.   Dont force her to do something just because you think it is nice.
• Assist in the planning.  Hire service providers and book dates, for example.  if wedding planners are hired, you can still help in the planning and also make sure that your daughter's ideas are carried out (because wedding planner can sometimes get carried away and will do what they think is nice and fashionable)

Father of the Bride
Before the Wedding

• Im sorry fathers, but unfortunately you role in you daughters wedding is to open and close your chequebook.  Weddings are expensive and sometimes the bride may need some financial assistance.

Wedding Day

• Do a speech
• Father and Daughter dance

Mother of the Groom
Before the Wedding

• Draw up the guest list for the groom's side of the family
• Offer help in the planning of the wedding

Wedding Day

• Introduce the groom's family to the bride's family

Father of the Groom
Before the Wedding

• Offer Financial support to your son

Wedding Day

• Spend some one-on-one time with your son in the morning to share some advice.  An outing such as golf or fishing will make it more favorable and relaxing
• Dance with the bride

Maid of Honor
Before the Wedding

• helping with the general wedding planning.  For example seeing venues, picking flower arrangements etc
• Help coordinate the other bridesmaides
• Plan the 'bachelorette' party

Wedding Day

• Help the bride get ready
• Be by the bride's side at all times to calm her down and sort out any problems
• Make sure the bridesmaides are on time
• Hold the bride's bouquet during vows
• Keep the ring meant for the groom until its time to hand it over
• Witness the signing of the marriage license

Bridesmaides
Before the Wedding

• Pitch in ideas for the wedding planning
• Chip in financially for the bachelorette party
• Help the bride get ready

Best Man
Before the Wedding

• Plan the bachelor party
• Make sure nothing regrettable happens at the bachelor party (in other words, no strippers guys)

Wedding Day

• Make sure the groom is ready and at the church on time
• Make sure all the groomsmen are on time (and not monkeying around, lol)
• Hold the ring meant for the bride as well as the the marriage licence unitll its time to hand them over
• Decorate the 'getaway car' with items such as a JUST MARRIED sign.  If you cant do it, you can get someone to do it.

Groomsmen
Before the Wedding

• Help the best man to plan the bachelor party

Wedding Day

• Nothing!  Help calm the groom's nerves before the ceremony, in case he starts getting cold feet.

So if you have been chosen to be in someone's bridal party, know that its not all about looking pretty on the day!  its not about you, its about the bride and groom, so do watever you can to reduce the stress.  and please whatever you do, DO NOT ADD TO IT BY BEING A PAIN IN THE....